About Imposter Syndrome

And why helping you find your true self is the work I’m called to do.

Imposter syndrome isn’t just a mindset problem.
It isn’t a confidence issue, a lack of gratitude, or something you can journal your way out of in a weekend.

Imposter syndrome is a slow erosion of your sense of self.

It’s what happens when you learn—through family systems, faith communities, workplaces, or the world—that your worth is tied to performance. That you have to earn belonging. That who you are isn’t quite enough unless it’s polished, impressive, or pleasing to others.

People see your talent, your heart, your creativity, your leadership.
But inside?
You’re terrified they’ll discover the cracks, questions, and contradictions you’ve been managing on your own.

And I get it—deeply.
Because I’ve lived my way through it.

Why This Work Matters to Me

Before I was a therapist, I was a kid who felt responsible for holding things together.
I was a creative who felt like he had to earn a seat at every table.
I was a minister who carried the weight of doing everything right while quietly unraveling inside.
I was a husband walking through grief and miscarriage, trying to stay strong for everyone else.
I was a man who survived identity shifts, burnout, spiritual injury, and the disorienting feeling of losing the life I thought I was supposed to live.

And through every chapter, the same story kept repeating:

“If people really knew me—my limits, my fears, my humanity—they’d walk away.”

That belief shaped so much of my drive, my ambition, my pressure to perform.
It also nearly broke me.

But it also became the doorway to the work I do now.

Imposter syndrome was never the enemy—it was a signal.
A clue pointing toward where my truest self was suffocating under old expectations and survival strategies.

And that’s why this work moves me down to the bone.

Imposter Syndrome Isn’t Just a Workplace Issue—It’s a Soul Issue

So many of the people I work with are brilliant, sensitive, intuitive, driven, and deeply creative.
They’ve built careers, families, ministries, and identities on a foundation of grit and self-sacrifice.

But inside, they feel:

  • Like a fraud—even when they’re successful

  • Unseen—even when surrounded by people

  • Constantly behind—even while overfunctioning

  • Deeply alone—even while carrying everyone else

  • Worried that one mistake will expose everything

This isn’t “low self-esteem.”
This is a life lived out of alignment with who you actually are.

Your “imposter” is not a flaw—it’s a strategy you learned to survive.

And survival strategies aren’t signs of weakness.
They’re signs of incredible intelligence.

But they’re not meant to be permanent.

My Passion: Helping You Come Home to Yourself

Therapy with me isn’t about pushing you to be more confident, more productive, or more put together.

It’s about unlearning the roles that kept you safe so you can finally become the person you’ve always been beneath the pressure:

  • The creative who stopped trusting their instincts

  • The leader who forgot they’re allowed to rest

  • The anxious mind carrying years of being “the responsible one”

  • The neurodivergent soul who was misunderstood instead of celebrated

  • The tender human who has never felt permission to be fully themselves

This is identity work.
Nervous system work.
Meaning-making work.
Life-after-survival work.

It’s the kind of work that gives you your life back.

My Mission: To Help Anxious High-Achievers Break Free From the Inner Critic and Reclaim Their True Selves

Imposter syndrome is not the end of your story.
It’s the middle—the messy, honest, transformative middle.

On the other side of it is:

  • A quieter mind

  • A grounded body

  • A self you actually recognize

  • Confidence that isn’t loud, but rooted

  • Relationships you don’t have to perform in

  • A life that feels aligned, not forced

This isn’t about pretending you’re enough.
It’s about discovering that you always have been.

If you’re ready to stop being the version of yourself you think the world requires—and start becoming the person you were meant to be—I’d be honored to walk with you.

Let’s find your true self again.
Let’s build a life that finally feels like you.